What Do You Need to Accept?

What you refuse to acknowledge and accept, will eventually come back to bite you.

We all encounter challenges, obstacles, and hardships in life. Some people face them head on, others work hard to avoid them. However, no matter what you do, we will all have to face them eventually. The question is, how will you face them?

After what I’ve been through in my life, I’m often asked by people how I was able to survive (if you don’t know the story, you can read it here: http://www.markblac.ca/bio). People hear about the obstacles I’ve overcome and wonder how I was able to stay sane and come out the other side. The truth is I had a lot of help and support and could never have done it alone. That said, the strategies I learned and developed to help me cope have not only helped me but have proven beneficial to many others as well. So I thought I’d use today’s post to share one of those with you.

Accept and adapt is a strategy that can help you wrap your mind around whatever you might be facing right now and reframe it in a way that helps you cope with it in a more effective and productive way.

When we face a challenge, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. When the unexpected happens, we are always put in a place of discomfort and dis-ease because we feel out of control, and as human beings, we don’t like to feel out of control. That’s why this strategy is so critical.

The first step is to accept what’s happening. Most of us have been raised not to accept adversity. We are taught to rise above challenges, fight obstacles and do whatever we can to avoid it. Often people will cope with challenges by going into denial. At some level, the hope that if they just pretend the problem isn’t there, it will go away. That strategy never works.

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If you want to handle the adversity you face effectively, start by accepting what is. This doesn’t mean accepting the status quo or presuming that things can never be changed, but rather it means that we have to be realistic enough to admit that things are what they are and then move on from there.

Assessing the situation though is only the first step. If all you do is state the problem, you won’t fix anything. After acceptance, move on to adaptation.

Even the animals and the world of nature, without the intelligence of human beings, do this. They adapt all the time as a matter of survival. We need to do the same. Many people have wasted a lot of time and energy over the past few years complaining about how bad the economy is.

There’s no question that the economy has presented a challenge to many. However, people would be in much better shape if, instead of spending their time and energy complaining, they were working on adapting the way they think and behave. Most people cause themselves grief because they try to solve today’s problems with yesterday’s thinking.

So if you are dealing with a challenge or obstacle right now, first, accept what you are dealing with. Don’t deny it. Don’t pretend it isn’t there. Just accept what is, then MOVE ON. Don’t stay in your situation and resign yourself to life as it is. Adapt the way you think and behave to your new reality.

What is your biggest challenge right now?
What do you need to do to adapt your behavior and thinking so that you can deal with it more effectively?

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