How to Build Toughness in 3 Steps

What separates those who succeed from the rest is inner strength. I have been able to achieve some things that I credit mostly to an ability to block out pain and discomfort, and pursue the goal with single-minded determination.

Here’s a discouraging, but true fact, the world does not want you to succeed; at least not to your maximum potential. Was that too harsh? Sorry, but it’s true. The world works on averages. It wants us all to fall into our allotted spot on the curve and be “normal”. So if you decide that you want to be exceptional, you will most certainly meet with some resistance

Most of us don’t recognize this resistance though because it’s subtle. You probably won’t have people literally tell you that you can’t do something or that you have no business doing what you want to do, but that doesn’t mean you won’t receive those messages. Human beings have all kinds of ways of keeping each other down. It’s our way of making ourselves feel more comfortable about what we have, or haven’t achieved in our lives. Your task, in order to be resilient enough to survive, is to be tougher than the resistance. If you want to become all that you were meant to be, you can’t allow external forces, especially negative ones, shape your performance.

So how do you become tougher?

1. Articulate your personal truths and stick to them
– Many people float through life without ever articulating what they believe, what they stand for, what matters most to them and what they want to achieve. When you do this you leave your destination entirely to chance. Know what you stand for and don’t let anyone get in the way of that

2. Make a Decision – I tell all the people I speak to who want to try a marathon the same thing; running a marathon is just putting one foot in front of the other until you get to the finish line. All you have to do is decide not to quit until you finish. Sound simple? It is. And it’s a key to success. If you commit to yourself that you won’t stop until you realize your goals, then you stand a MUCH higher chance of achieving them.

3. Find Your Why – Many people can’t tell you why they do what they do. That’s sad, and counterproductive. To succeed at the highest level you have to have a “why”. You need to know exactly why you do what you do. What is your motive? Is it a strong one? If you go to work just to make money and pay bills, you’ll never be as successful and valuable as the employee who goes to work because they want to make a difference, because they genuinely care about their customer, or because they see it as they calling. Find your why, and suddenly being tough won’t be so… well… tough.