Two-Face Isn’t Just a Batman Villain

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We all feel it. It’s not just you. I know you might feel sometimes that you’re the only one, but you’re not. Trust me. There isn’t a single person on the planet who at one point or another hasn’t wondered if they had what it took to succeed. In fact, I’m having one of those moments right now.

In less than 24hrs I am releasing the biggest project I have ever worked on in my business. It’s been nearly 2 years in the making, and tomorrow at about 9AM, I am going to release it to the world. I’ve spent months planning and creating it. I have strategized, planned, and executed. I’ve consulted friends and colleagues. I feel like I’ve done everything I can do to make it a big success and now it all comes down to tomorrow. With one click of a mouse, I will roll out my new online training program “Live Today: The 12 Week Life Transformation” to the world and then the hardest part, I will wait to see what happens.

I’m cautiously optimistic, but I’m also afraid. What if it fails? What if no one buys it? What if I put blood, sweat and tears and months of effort into this, and no one clicks?

“Two-Face is not just a Batman Villain”

Have you ever had a moment of self-doubt like this? Maybe you’re experiencing doubt like that right now. If you are, remember that you are not alone. The reason I shared what I’m going through right now is because I want you to know that no matter how it may appear on the outside, everyone experiences this phenomenon. So the question isn’t really, “what if I doubt myself’? but rather, “what will I do when I doubt myself?”

There ARE things you can do to cope with the doubt and nurture your confidence. Here are the 3 I have found to be most helpful:

  1. Recall Previous Successes:
    When we’re in a time of self-doubt it’s easy to focus on all of our flaws, failures and faux pas. It’s easy to assume that because of some deficiency on our part, things will not work out.The truth though, is that while you are not perfect, you have had successes in your life. In fact, you probably have many reasons for confidence. You may have simply forgotten them.

    Make a list of the great successes you have had. Be grateful for them, and remember that if you could do those things, you can certainly face whatever you have to face now.

  2. Focus on Your Progress:
    When we doubt ourselves we can feel like we don’t have the abilities we need to get the job done. We can look to the vision we have of the kind of person we want to be or the kind of business we want to have and think ‘I’ll never get there”.Instead of focusing on how far you have to go, think about how far you have already come.

    Take a few minutes and list all of the skills and abilities you currently possess that will help you succeed in whatever you are working on right now. For example if you are feeling like a bad parent, focus on your ability to listen, your love for your child, or your great organizational skills. Remind yourself that you have all of the tools in the toolbox that you need, you may just need to work on how you use them.

  3. Fear “Good Enough” More Than You Fear Failure
    The biggest enemy to living to a great life is not failure. Most of us experience the fear of failure at some point in our lives – I’m experiencing a bit of it right now. But there is something far more serious to fear than failure – “good enough syndrome”.The “good enough syndrome” is what happens when you shy away from being your very best (usually out of fear that your best won’t be good enough) and settle instead for being “good enough”.

    Two-Face isn’t just a character from Batman. It describes how we all feel sometimes. On the one hand we know that we are capable of some level of achievement and that we have something to offer the world. But we also realize that we are far from perfect. We may secretly worry that we will be found out for the fraud that we really are (it’s called ‘Imposter Syndrome’ – it’s so common they even have a name for it).

Of course you aren’t an imposter. You just aren’t perfect. Everyone around you already knows that, and you do too of course, and yet you probably secretly hold yourself to that high standard anyway.

Don’t cope with your insecurities by settling for “good enough” Dare to dream big and reach for those dreams. Accept that you will fail sometimes and that is okay. When you succeed, celebrate it. When you fail, see what you can learn from it, and then move on.

Failing despite your best efforts is much better than not really trying and succeeding at being mediocre.

I hope those three tips are helpful to you as you deal with your self-doubt. If you found these helpful, please let me know in the comment section (It will ease my self-doubt;) And if you have found other techniques or thoughts that have been particularly helpful please share them below. We will all learn from your brilliance.

 

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